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Divorce is defined as traumatic rupture life of the marriage relationship. Unlike widowhood, divorce is 100% preventable, it is caused by human factors of the partners, not external factors.

Divorce is not caused by events, such as a strong fight, infidelity or violence, but by internal factors deeper and more chronic. Moreover, these specific events often result from internal factors.

Divorce is produced when there is no solid foundation of married life. When this foundation is not in the heart of the couple, then love is deteriorating and the couple ends up breaking up.

The vast majority of divorces occur not through promiscuity, domestic violence, drug addiction or alcoholism. Of course, these reasons do you have to separate. But the vast majority of couples who separate claim to "have was love."

I will mention some of the factors that slowly took the couple to disconnection, the cooling, the specific events (violence, infidelity, fights) and finally to the destruction of all the dreams of couples, divorce.

1. Lack of commitment

The couple does not see marriage as a sacred bond indissoluble, but more as a contract inevitably have no interest in resolving conflicts and to strive for their marriage, and let things take their "natural course", which in the case marriage is weakening due to the normal conflicts that arise.

2. Lack of understanding of what love is

The couple who believes that love is a mix of feelings and emotions, quickly disappointed to see, over time, no longer feel the same. This is because they know that love is a series of daily decisions. One decides to love your partner. If it is not clear that the couple feels that "it was love."

3. Not knowing how to resolve conflicts

The vast majority of people are not educated on the issue of resolving conflicts. Simply react as they want, causing deep wounds and chronic resentment, which cools the relationship. Training required to deal with differences, resolving conflicts also, know how to avoid arguments, or say!

4. Lack of communication

When the couple does not communicate, but each separate lives his life, then its members, in the course of years, unfamiliar terms. They do not know how your partner what you like, what you dislike. And if you have bad communication habits worse. This inevitably cools the relationship, causing loneliness in his heart.

5. Lack of purpose

When each partner has goals and dreams separately, each one focuses on his own, and does not account for the couple. This creates the feeling that each one is alone in the world. When the couple does not share a purpose, there is no teamwork or cooperation or mutual assistance. This definitely cooled the relationship.

There are many factors that influence the cooling of the relationship, such as the lack of spirituality, lack of healthy sexuality, lack of gender differences, and so on.

In short, the idea is to clarify that if the couple has a solid foundation in your marriage relationship, they can avoid cooling, discussions, and all those events that do so much damage to the relationship, and that lead to divorce.